Someone’s willingness to do household chores isn’t the determinant of whether or not they are responsible. It is a matter of preference. Let’s talk about some myths about men, shall we?
These myths about men are myths that I knew when I paid attention to the men around me.
My father, my brothers, my guy friends, those guys I cross paths with frequently and are around me but don’t talk to, and total strangers either online or offline.
You may find these unsurprising, just want to say. Here are some myths about men I knew through observation:
- All men are the same.
- Men are lazy and irresponsible.
- Men don’t have feelings.
- Men don’t want to commit.
Let’s begin.
4 Biggest Myths About Men: First, All Men Are the Same
I’m going to talk about some myths about men just to let you know that, first and foremost, not all men are the same. My brothers annoy me in different ways, so I am sure of that.
I have three brothers, in case you don’t know yet, and no sisters. I am the only daughter — and no, I am not their princess.
Although I have guy friends as well, I’d like to focus my examples on my brothers in this post because they are the ones I spend most of my time with.
But before I continue, I want to say hi if you are a man. I’m going to expose some of your secrets, so brace yourself. And I’m not kidding.
Well, I am kidding. My brothers are the ones who should worry because I am going to expose them here.
I’m not an expert when it comes to men. In fact, I am aloof around them and don’t let myself be alone with them because I’m not comfortable (I’m talking about the ones I’m not at least 60% close with), so I’m not exposed to a lot of them.
But I like observing people, and that is how I got a much deeper understanding of men. Let’s start! Here are the biggest myths about men!
1. All men are the same.
The biggest myth about men is that all men are the same.
Not all men are the same, and I don’t have to back that up with studies because that’s observable — if you look from an objective point of view.
Some of them may have the same interests and are doing the same things, but most women like wearing makeup, and that doesn’t make them the same at the core.
My brothers are the same in the sense that they have the same parents, grew up in the same house, studied in the same high school, and have the same childhood friends (except the little brother).
However, when it comes to their personality and preferences, they are different. Undeniably different.
According to Planet Spark, among the factors that affect a person’s personality include the parents, the environment they were raised in, their culture, and media exposure.
Even my friends. Some of my friends are quiet while some are loud. Some are serious while some are playful. Some wanted to achieve more in college while some just aimed for a passing grade.
Some want to commit to women while some want just their attention. Some love the woman they are with while some — no comment. And the list goes on.
Don’t generalize. Some men are innocent. Not all men are going to hurt you (and I know I should say that to myself, too).
2. Men are lazy and irresponsible.
I also thought men are lazy because my brothers don’t like household chores.
However, when I looked deeper into the situation, I found out that it’s not because they are lazy or irresponsible, or that they want to make my life super difficult.
They just don’t like household chores, and it’s not about who they are as a person.
My younger brother does household chores half-heartedly and, sometimes, not at all. But he doesn’t complain whenever my mom asks him to buy something somewhere. And whenever I ask him to buy something somewhere.
I would complain if I were him. In fact, I was always complaining back then whenever my mom asks me to drop by somewhere, so she doesn’t ask me to do that kind of stuff anymore.
She got tired of my complaints, and I find that funny!
I’m the one who accomplishes the majority of the household chores, so I am not lazy. But I can’t be trusted to run errands, and I can be called lazy for that despite the fact that I’m indeed the one who does most of the household chores.
But I do the household chores, so who are you to call me lazy?
Did you know that household chores are among the reasons why married couples divorce? Check out this article from Men’s Divorce.
The point is that someone’s willingness to do household chores isn’t the determinant of whether or not he’s responsible. It’s a matter of preference.
There are things that men don’t like doing, but that doesn’t mean they are useless. You see, there are things that you don’t like doing but that doesn’t make you useless.
So, before you call someone lazy, make sure that you are willing to do for them what they do for you.
And I want to put emphasis on “for you” because if they are doing a lot of things but they are doing those things for themselves, then I will understand why you are so mad.
3. Men don’t have feelings.
Do you know why a lot of men are immature, don’t know how to handle emotional situations and their own emotions, and are afraid of commitment? It’s because a lot of people are telling them not to feel.
Society expects them to be unemotional, so they never had the opportunity to learn how to deal with different kinds of emotions.
There was a time in the past when all I did was watch TED talks about men who were struggling because society invalidates their feelings, and I could feel the pain.
PsychCentral says that people invalidate someone else’s feelings because they can’t understand and process those for reasons such as they have a lot in their mind or their life, and they can’t afford to think about others. So, the problem is not with the person feeling the feelings.
A lot of people tell them to “man up” or not show any emotion because it’s not manly, so they never get the “freedom” to explore and get to know their emotional side.
Men may appear like they don’t care, but there’s a part of them that’s waiting for the time that they can finally let go.
And I guess that’s the reason why some of them are clingy and so attached when in a relationship. They may not admit to this, but they want to be taken care of and to feel okay to be weak around someone.
If you are the kind of person who is nurturing and motherly, doesn’t expect them to be strong all the time, and can be their support whenever they need it, a lot of men will want to be with you.
4. Men don’t want to commit.
Men won’t commit if they are not ready to, either emotionally or financially. What I mean by this is that if a man isn’t financially stable or if they can’t let go of their freedom yet, they will be hesitant to commit.
I’m going to take my older brother as an example here because he is the oldest.
He is in his late 20s, and he’d been single for many, many years before he entered into a relationship. And I believe it was because of two things: his financial condition and his desire for freedom.
Men will more likely enter into a relationship with someone they can run away from anytime according to Jonathon Aslay.
He had a job, but he’d rather spend his money on things that would make him happy, such as gaming consoles, shoes, and shirts. He wasn’t 100% willing to spend on dates back then.
I know that there were other reasons why he wasn’t in a relationship for so long, but I’m sure that those two I mentioned earlier were part of the bigger picture.
Also, men won’t commit if you aren’t the person they want to spend the rest of their life with, or if they aren’t sure.
Personally, I won’t commit if I don’t trust the person fully and if I don’t cry whenever I imagine that person dying before my eyes, forcing me to live without him.
I am not a man, but that may be the case for some men.
Last Words
Men are babies? I believe that is not one of the myths about men.
I can see very clearly how my mom treats my brothers, and she treats them differently. But it’s not men’s fault. It is the mother’s fault.
Do you think these myths about men are truths?
If you enjoyed reading these myths about men, here is a video of me talking about the men in my life, and they are a pain in the neck:
